Because monogamy lowers the chances that our genes will survive, men are not, by nature, monogamous creatures.
So Tiger sleeps with a waitress in a Denny’s parking lot and he loses a half billion dollars, his wife, his kids, and his golf mojo. So even if we establish that men are driven by sex, it’s far from the whole story, as evidenced by the 50 million married men in the United States. As long as he treats you well and doesn’t take action on his desires, you’ve got a good man whose desire for you is stronger than his real sexual impulse to be with someone else. It meant that, no, I don’t have to worry about that attractive busty blonde at the party, because she doesn’t mean any more to him than the tall, willowy brunette with the short skirt.
Somehow, I don’t think he considered that with his pants around his ankles. I have to say, this was a major growing up point for me, when I read Manslations by Jeff Mac, and looked at the evidence, and realised that, yes indeed, most men are on some level sexually attracted to most attractive women. Other attractive women are a fact of life, might as well get used to it.
That doesn’t mean in some alternate universe that I wouldn’t like to be able to have my cake and eat it, too.
That’s essentially what alpha males do – get married and keep sleeping with other women.
Men, regardless of relationship status, get a chemical high in seeing attractive women.
Men can appreciate the female form, either clothed or naked.And since the value of my marriage is far greater than the value of sleeping with a stranger in Paris, I remain faithful, even though I’m attracted to other women everywhere I go.It would never even occur to me after 300 dates and nearly 10 years as a dating coach that there’s anyone out there who’d make me happier for the next forty years than my own wife.Most men, for example, agree that symmetrical faces with small noses and certain hip to waist ratios (thin waist, wider hips) are considered attractive.Naturally, there are some men who like older women or heavier women or women with one leg. Still, a lot of men still want to try on the same lid, who just happens to be 20-30 years old, have stunning features and is built like a Barbie doll. Next, I’d like to assert that a man’s sexual tastes and feelings of attraction don’t disappear because he is in love with another woman.His intense feelings for his girlfriend may lessen his desires to look elsewhere for sex.