You’re definitely not alone – as you can see, tons of women have experienced the “guy doesn’t text back” phenomenon.
At this point, rather than calling him out when he doesn’t respond, you would be far more effective if you make other plans when this happens.
DON’T wait on him because people tend to fall into a routine with other people based on past behavior.
and as the woman gets more upset, she tends to act more desperate, more paranoid and more guarded.
This is not the energy that attracted the guy in the first place – chances are that when he met you, you were happy, carefree and having fun.
Whether it’s his texting habits, the way he talks to you or the ways he shows (or doesn’t show) his affection for you, you don’t want to be chasing his affection.
All that this does is show him that he can treat you like an option while he makes other things a priority. This scenario tends to lead to a relationship downward spiral since the less he puts in effort, the more upset the woman tends to get…
That’s a much better way to be it’s far more attractive to the guy as well.
When you don’t let the guy in your life be a source of disappointment, you’ll not only save yourself from heartache, worry and misery… I am sincerely grateful for all the mail’s it has helped me in my present distance relationship though I still have some challenges facing me.
So when I talk about neediness or acting needy, I’m not recommending that you change how you behave or even try to avoid these actions. A much more empowering mindset is to simply not settle for what you don’t want and seek out what you do want… Also, I want to be clear that good, clear communication of what you want and what you don’t want is part of any good and healthy relationship.
Rather, I’m recommending that you change how you think about things and, therefore, the needy behaviors and ways of acting naturally disappear. It’s believing that you “need” the other person to act a certain way, be a certain way, do specific things or say specific things… There’s nothing wrong with having preference for what you want and only settling for what you want. The problem with the needy mindset is that when you’re not getting what you want, you have a strong negative reaction because you think of his specific behavior as something you “need” in order to be OK… So bear in mind that this response to you is from the context that you’ve repeatedly brought this up as an issue and there’s been no change in his behavior.
On the other hand, nobody is going to admire, respect or prioritize a doormat (who will put up with anything because they’re afraid of losing the other person and desperate for their attention, love and validation).