"You may feel remorse for what you did or didn't do, or wonder what you did wrong.
Society is much more accepting of singles than even a decade ago, when solo restaurant diners often got the hairy eyeball.
"There are more than 30 million people living alone in this country today," Falk says.
Maybe you always loved going to the theater but your husband hated it. "Exercising your interest in those again is important to rebuilding yourself." The life-changing period of divorce, though often difficult and unwelcome, holds a silver lining: to shake things up and try on a new lifestyle.
"What were your hobbies and activities before the marriage? Maybe it's as simple as a pixie haircut after a lifetime of wearing long, flowing locks.
Of course, you can't just flit away and throw caution to the wind.
Chances are, you have some very real considerations -- kids (if you're a parent), a job, and a budget (which may have been hurt by the divorce).
" Even if, by the time you split, the divorce was something you wanted, a divorce still represents a loss.
"Whatever your marriage and divorce experience has been, there will be emotions that have to do with grief," says psychotherapist Florence Falk, Ph D, MSW, author of On My Own: The Art of Being a Woman Alone.
You've signed the divorce papers, and the relationship you entered with so much hope is officially dissolved. Maybe you had been married for decades, maybe just a year or so. Maybe the divorce was your idea and maybe it was your partner's, or maybe you both agreed that separation was best.