That usually involved telling her dates what MS is, and more importantly, how it affected her. If someone is not willing to stick with you through the challenges of a chronic illness like MS, it’s better to find out sooner than later.
“It’s about taking some risks, but also protecting yourself by not waiting too long,” she says.
If she says eight, he goes ahead and cancels everything on their calendar that day. “Good relationships don’t do very well when they have a foundation of secrecy or half-truths,” she adds.
For Chris Guzikowski, 58, that meant telling people right away: “I don’t want any secrets.” Although he hasn’t had a flare-up since 2008, he walks with a cane. Besides the MS, he had been out of dating for so long that it was scary to start over. “It was the driving force even though I had disappointments one after the other.” He thought he might have better luck with a woman who understood his disease.
By the end of 2006, life was just starting to come back together for Kate Milliken.
The business she launched after a broken engagement was beginning to take off. Two weeks later, after serious fatigue and problems with movement, she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at age 35.
The Princess The Princess is confident, well put together, and very attractive. She still follows “The Rules” and requires that her man do what she wants, when she wants. She’s a scorekeeper, and she alone decides when he’s given enough to satisfy her…or when he hasn’t and is history.
The Princess has an “I deserve it” attitude and has little or no concern for how she can make the other person happy.
“One of the things I had to figure out was how can I love someone else until I love me?
” More than a year later, Johnson was ready to dip her toe in the dating pool again. But she decided not to let the disease define her or dominate her conversations. If something on a date is hard because of her MS -- cracking a lobster claw at dinner or going for an all-day hike -- she turns that moment into an opportunity.
Here are some of the types of women men deal with as they date and relate.