I also noticed that many â [bold]not all,[/bold] but many â of the ones who are available:(1) only want to date guys who are in their 20s and early 30s;(2) have never been in a long-term relationship; if you are in your 50s, and you have never had a relationship that lasted longer than a few dates or a few months, that could be a real problem;(3) just gave up on themselves, i.e., decided that they no longer had to take care of how they look (as in they donât go near a gym and make exceptionally poor eating choices), and complain about their âailmentsâ as if they are 85 and in a nursing home;(4) are either just plain weird or have a harsh, bitter, jaded edge that is really unpleasant to be around. As I said, slim, but not nonexistent, so, hope springs eternal. It's a little annoying to me, but anyway it happens so you might as well try. Because younger guys looking for older men are looking for someone to take care of them.Iâm very involved in the community, have a lot of friends and a fantastic dog, and never lack for things to do or people to do them with. Or, in the short term, buy them things and take them on trips.The problem, though, is that such guys are often shy - practically homebodies - so they're hard to find.
I'm 44, but look 34, thanks to very good genetics and a healthy lifestyle, and I attract mostly guys in their mid 20s looking for someone a little older.
When I finally tell them the truth--that I'm old enough to be their father--they don't really care.
So what you are saying you only have ten years left to live beacuse you are so shallow that you think if you look 45 - Its not worth living?
You better get a handle on your old age now or you are in for a shock. [quote]I'm 44, but look 34, thanks to very good genetics and a healthy lifestyle Oh, dear - another eldergay trying to convince themselves they look 10 years younger than they are. " comments when I mention that I'm 44 to know that it's true.
I feel very fortunate because I've found someone who's mature, responsible, dependable, and considerate.
I, and others my age who are like me, find those qualities very attractive, and an older man is likelier to possess them.
I know lots of guys my age (40s) who are hung up on the idea that they want a 20-something boyfriend.
It's just not a reasonable demand..when I dig deeper I see that they are stunted emotionally in some way, and never had that 'perfect boyfriend' when THEY were in their 20's..can't move on from that until they get some young twink to fall in love with them. I meant to add that hooking up with younger guys is a whole 'nother story.
We worked together so I certainly wasn't giving him money--we made about the same.
Though there weren't that many years difference between us, it sort of bothered me.
What exactly is it then, OP, that would interest any of us in one of you?