My schedule was more flexible than his so it made sense that I should work around his schedule, right?
While in theory that makes sense, in reality, Craig started pulling away more and more.
I dated many, guys after Craig and let me tell you, whenever I’ve been overly available I went through that same cycle.
Intentionally manipulating a guy or playing games will always backfire because no guy wants to feel like he’s being yanked along on a destination-less journey.
Plus, he’ll be able to see right through what you’re doing and it will come across as desperate, which is the ultimate turnoff.
When you are this person, you won’t have to “play games” and will naturally activate a man’s natural desire to pursue.
Since you are living your life and aren’t relying on his approval to make you happy, he automatically steps up and tries to carve space for himself in your life.
MORE: A Guy’s Take on Neediness Now it is worth noting that a lot of women want to know how to make a guy chase them because they want him to pursue her and commit.
If you want to know exactly what makes a man commit and how to make him commit to you (and only you), then take a look at this article here: MORE: 4 Ways To Make Him Commit and Want Only You I met this guy years ago, let’s call him Craig.
When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.
When your happiness is rooted in all sorts of things, not just him, you will never have to watch what you say or do for fear of coming off as needy because you will never be needy.
The chase creates the illusion of chemistry, not a real connection.
A man can sense when you’re making him chase you, and if you keep it up you’ll succeed in one thing: chasing him away.
The frequency of calls and texts declined…he was always “too busy” to hang out…he stopped initiating contact (but would always respond when I reached out to him, acting nice and normal like always)…