When a guy says things like, ‘I’ve never liked a girl so much after only a few dates’ or he texts you saying he misses you when you barely know each other, he’s not making some kind of grand, everlasting declaration that he’ll always feel this way.
He would text me things like, ‘I miss you’ and ‘Can’t wait to see you’ and on our second date he said he ‘never liked a girl so much after only two dates’. All this was great, but then he started to shift and lately has been acting really shady- he cancels on me last minute, he’s been acting distant, and I’m just getting weird vibes.
We hit it off right away and during the first few weeks, he seemed super into me.
In the beginning phase of a relationship, the guy wants you to like him and wants to know that you do.
Everyone wants to be liked and if there’s any potential to the relationship whatsoever, the guy wants to know that you like him. So when he’s texting you sweet things, saying all that mushy stuff and being really attentive, there is an element of wanting to hook you in and see where he stands with you.
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If not, he will probably dial it back on his part because he doesn’t think you’re all that into him…
What if they’re not that into me and I end up making a fool of myself falling for someone when they don’t feel the same way? It may seem hard to believe, but in the beginning of a relationship, a guy will try to feel out how much a woman likes him …
especially if he feels some amount of insecurity about how much she’s into him.
He does all sorts of things to woo her and win her over, but simultaneously, he (for whatever reason) does not want to be in an exclusive relationship.
So as soon as the woman declares that she really likes him, she assumes it means that they’re headed towards a relationship.
I’ve described this kind of thing as people wearing a pretty “mask” at the beginning of a relationship and how, if you know about this, you’ll make sure to see the person behind the mask (and not mistake their pretty “mask” as who they actually are).