Dating an older man can teach you a lot, especially about yourself (and what you do and don’t want in a partner), but it’s not always the easiest of relationships. Just in case you’re thinking of getting serious with a fella quite a few years older or even decades older than you, here are a few things you might want to keep in mind before you get it crackin’.Depending on how old the man you’re seeing is, he might have certain goals he’s trying to finish accomplishing.He likes me because I keep things young, fresh, and really funny.” —Kara, 21 I Feel More Secure “Dating up is a good idea if you are looking for someone who is mature.
Slowly our friendship evolved into more, and we’ve been dating for two years.
It’s not weird to me now, but that hasn’t stopped people from giving us weird looks when we are together or affectionate in public.”—Krista, 25 Money Isn't An Issue “I am dating someone who is close to 20 years older than me and one major perk, if I’m being honest, is that he has money.
Don’t start changing things about yourself to mold into wifey-material, just because he knows he wants to settle down soon.
It’s okay to take interest in things he has a passion for, but don’t start doing things you know you can’t stand to make a good impression. All that *I know you can read my mind so you should know I’m hella pissed* way of doing things could get you ignored by an older man real quick. So if you’re upset about something substantial, don’t be afraid to calm yourself down, open your mouth and let it be known that you’ve been hurt by his actions.
I’m currently in a relationship with a fella the age of my older sister.
It has its perks and it has its bummer moments, but I think dating up in age is something that women should do at least once in life, even if it doesn’t turn into something serious.
But for the most part, suggesting a range of fun things that don’t become repetitive could get him out of his set ways slowly but surely. Like I said, if you allow it, things can get pretty dull.
While I love me some him, my partner has no problem with chilling indoors all day, catching up on his taped shows and eating the same rice dish every week. Feel free to encourage an opportunity for the both of you to cook together. Hit up a cute wine bar and talk about more than work.
Instead of cussing them good, just say, “No comment.” Don’t come in thinking you’ve found a sugar daddy, or that because he’s older he will have his life together and be wise. He might be in a world of debt and have a sideways way of thinking as opposed to an IRA account and a wealth of wisdom from past experiences.
Every man is different, and sometimes change of self doesn’t come with a change in age.
Joking from time to time is cool, but don’t get too comfortable trying to blame certain issues on his age.