I was already imagining suggesting tea and scones at nearby Alice's Tea Cup when the Brit dreamboat got back to me one day later: "Thanks! I'm just traveling here for a couple days." I typed a polite "You're welcome," a little crushed.It turns out, according to Pambakian, Tinder is commonly used as a travel guide.With no other criteria, I swiped right on guys who I found attractive and could write a literate sentence in their About Me, the same method I used when trying to date.
Turns out the apps didn't create that restriction though: we did.
On Tinder particularly, "The purpose was never just for dating, it was for social discovery in general," Rosette Pambakian, vice president of communications for the app, told me.
Tinder was the worst of them: All I saw were a couple of group shots (but which guy are you, Steve?
), ab selfies, and if I was really lucky, a suit shot.
I associated more with her: She had zero chance with me romantically because of my sexual orientation, and I'd feel unethically deceptive talking with her even though I wrote "straight" in my profile and that I was just searching for friends. I always wanted an English friend, in part due to the accent and cultural intrigue.
I also doubted, after a while, people really read what I wrote. As forward as his message was (Did he want to hang out with me already?!
It wasn't, however, easy to find a great friend match.
With photo-heavy, information light profiles, the apps had me frustrated within five minutes.
During the month that I used social dating apps to find new buddies, I sent countless unrequited salutations, offered up priceless New York City travel recommendations, and even gave my number to a guy who wanted to discuss first amendment rights. When I started, I believed that, with millions of people just searching for company online, I'd easily find my new bestie or at least someone down for a platonic hang.
A friend finder app, after all, didn't seem too far away with Tinder for cats and other spin-off matching services debuting. Lyke Me, an app three Michigan State University students have designed to match people based on interests, is launching this fall.) On a personal level, I wanted more friends.
"The co-founders wanted to create a really efficient way to meet people around you who you probably would have never met before."The "show me men versus women" option the app provides is "exactly what it says," Pambakian explains.