You might imagine that dating a new woman will be a lot like starring in your very own girl-on-girl romantic comedy: you’ll be asked out in some quirky yet perfect way, your date will clearly express interest in you and be a master of seduction, and when you finally have sex, it will be like the 4th of July in your pants and Christmas in your heart (or Hanukkah, whatevs). I think we all have our own lesbian dating horror stories that we like to tell our friends as a warning of things to come. If we could just collectively raise the bar a little and invest as much in the art of dating as we do in the art of Facebooking, maybe lesbian courtship could be a brave new world. The revolution won’t come overnight, so let’s start small with some of the main DOs and DONTs.
Now that we’ve pinpointed some of the biggest lesbian dating DON’Ts, let’s talk about the DO’s.
I’m going to skip over the obvious stuff, such as showering beforehand and not texting during the meal (although with some dates I’ve been on, these things weren’t as apparent as one might think/hope).
And remember, even after you’ve “got her,” you have to keep her.
Maintain the momentum that got you here, otherwise it’s like dating blue balls…no one wants that.
Women are basically the main reason that date night and Valentine’s Day were invented in the first place!
Like the time a girl’s ex showed up and wanted career advice, or when you realized the girl you were dating was emotionally unavailable because she was having an affair with her married friend. For the love of getting laid, stop telling dates about your exes!
Ask them to do a specific activity at a specific time and place.
Preferably an activity that is reflective of something most people enjoy (i.e good food) or something that they have mentioned enjoying in conversation.
I know it’s easy to say “let’s get a drink after dinner,” because there are a million bars and nothing creates fake intimacy like booze, but try to think of something else.