For women who have been trying to find that illusive “special someone” for a while, this may seem like an impossible question to answer.After all, for most of our lives, men were simple creatures.Now, as we reach our 50s and 60s, the situation is somewhat more complicated.
“If you aren’t sure how your profile looks/reads, ask a friend to proof it,” she suggests.
“They can catch any potentially off-putting, Charlie-Brown-sulking statements, as well as good-naturedly make fun of you for any weird phrasing or half-truths.
Even high-strung people often think they’re ‘laid-back.’ Find something more descriptive.” Other common terms to be avoided: “cool,” “awesome,” “funny.” “Nearly everyone ‘loves to laugh’ and ‘enjoys fun.’ None of that sets you apart. “Put yourself into a potential date's shoes on this one. ’ Blech—that conversation is a total wipeout.” A better alternative, she explains, is telling stories.
Instead of saying, ‘I’m witty,’” Robinson suggests, “say, ‘I’m one part Ricky Gervais, one part Jon Stewart, and a soupcon of Fred Flintstone.’ That paints a more vivid picture.” I like surfing, reading, swimming, jogging, and cooking. If you saw a list like this on a cute girl’s profile, how would you possibly respond? “ ‘Last summer, I went surfing at the Jersey Shore nearly every day with my dog Rufus. Buy me a beer, and I’ll tell you more.’ Something like that gives a date plenty to want to talk to you about—plus you sound like an active, interesting person, not just a list of gerunds.” Don’t stretch the truth, even on minor details.
“If you’re looking for a solid, long-term relationship-type, avoid pictures of yourself drinking excessively or making kissy faces at the camera,” Robinson says.
“If you’re just looking for a fling, skip the photos from the church bake-off and beef it up appropriately.” Extra points for artsy/humorous/evocative shots.Yet, when it comes to online matters of the heart, finding “the one” often remains elusive.That’s because love, like the Internet, has a lingo and etiquette all its own.In our interview, I asked Lisa this question directly and she gave me a simple answer.Single men in their 60s are looking for a woman who is feminine and is willing to help them feel like a man.It’s not about the inch or two; it’s a sense that you’re insecure enough to be lying.