One of my friends is dating my ex
I’m really ashamed to admit it, but this is driving me bonkers and I don’t know how to make it stop! Cut out the friends who are clearly playing both sides and/or favoring him over me? (And if it’s the last option, please provide pointers on how to keep my crazy under control.) — Feeling Single White Femaled by her Ex If you dated your ex for four and a half years, it’s safe to say that your friends, the ones who hung out with the two of you as a couple of a regular basis, probably developed a relationship with him.
If they all liked each other, then there were likely some genuine friendships made over the course of those several years.
Even if your ex genuinely liked your friends, there wouldn’t have been reason to contact them on his own if you were the one making the plans for all of you to get together. And is he supposed to just drop all of these people he’s spent the last four and half years getting to know and build friendships with just because you broke up and they were your friends first?
Do you really think of your friends as “territory,” or property to be divided in a breakup?
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Now you are helping others, just by visiting wiki How.And if you feel that there are people in your life who are “choosing” your ex over you, it might be time to re-evaluate those relationships and cut back on your investment in those people.The truest friends — the ones who know how much you’re hurting right now — not only won’t favor your ex, but they’ll be sensitive about your feelings and will be selective about their contact with your ex and sensitive about the information they share with you about him. If you aren’t careful, you stand to hurt both your relationship with your friend and your crush, but your feelings may be strong enough to warrant the risk.Depending on the situation, you may find yourself faced with some significant heartache, but it’s important to remember that being the wrong person for your crush doesn’t mean you aren’t the right person for someone else.Some just have a hard time adjusting to a new reality that includes a stepmom.