If you’re of course going to say, sod the advice, I want my sex, well…again, you’re choosing the likely results.
It’ll be OK, happiness awaits me on the other side.”“Those cars were going way too fast. I didn’t have the time to make that journey and surely you couldn’t expect me to be on my own for the next 10 miles…oh goodness, where is everyone? ”It is in essence, just another way of sabotaging your efforts, which in itself again shows self-esteem issues, and a more deep rooted instinct to keep yourself away from relationships that offer a stronger possibility of commitment.
They should have stopped or slowed down when they saw me coming. I thought that it was going to be really good here, so how come I feel so crappy. If you are not willing to put aside even a few months out of your life to focus on you and clearing out the emotional closet so you can get down to hand baggage and approach men, dating, and relationships from a healthier positive perspective, already dedicating a likely far longer period to self-negativity and poor relationships, there are certain things you need to do and remember: 1) You are choosing your experience and bearing in mind that you know what the very likely result will be, that puts you in the hotseat of responsibility.
5) The projection rolls to the over optimism side too.
People who habitually have poor relationships are rarely in the present – they’re in the past wondering why he won’t become what he was in the first week, or living out the fantasy of the illusion of what they think things could be like in the future.
You don’t get to have it all and fireworks are a likely indicator in your relationships of there being problems.
If you’re not that keen on the quality of the relationship and the quality of your happiness and have decided to ‘settle’, trust me when I say that seeking ‘fireworks’ is likely to keep you single than it is to put you in the relationship you desperately require.
If you don’t love you, like you, why the hell should someone else see something that you don’t?
For those that go with the change route, they make their choice too, just like if you decide that you don’t want to change. The point is that nobody, including me, can ‘make’ you choose the better option.
10) As you don’t trust in you and are unwillingly to use your past experiences to make real, positive, changes, you are going to have to work out your plan of action and decide how you want to play this.