There are other “gifts” that a man gives to show his love that may be more subtle.When a man stands up for you during a difficult situation, attends functions that are important to you, considers you first when planning, goes with you to see your family or does little jobs/chores for you, these are all ways that a man says he loves you. We tend to avoid the consequences associated with the choice we make which equals inexplicable friction, and stress.
And to others, it is far more serious than my interpretation of it – it is a single-minded commitment to lifelong partnership.
Love can mean different things to men at different points in their life.
In short, guys love through action and not through words.
Most men look at what they say as a sort of promise or commitment, even if it’s an emotionally based discussion.
They’ve lived overseas, our ways are outdated e.t.c; but my brothers and sisters, I have discovered that this is all hogwash. I can’t imagine what my mother will say when she sees your hair like this” “Negro….” 2.
The truth is that to the average Nigerian man the concept of marriage is twisted. It plays out like this, “if you are a good girl and you impress me I will marry you. I will just wait for you to get older and taunt you about it” They are like a child with a toy and Funmi Iyanda tried to take it away from them.
My point in all this is that saying “I love you” is a big deal in terms of his commitment to the relationship in the majority of men. To put it in terms of your questions: How do men show their love?
There are all sorts of conventional images of men showing love through giving gifts: roses, chocolates, stuffed animals, cards, etc but these are not necessarily signs of that is an excellent gauge of his love for you: his time.
Hence the vitriol in her Twitter mentions after her tweets.