It's not uncommon for divorced men, especially if they think their ex is a less-than-adequate mother, to want you to come in and fill a "mommy hole" for his children.
Men may not consciously realize this, but most divorced men I work with will admit to wanting their new partner to be a bit like Mother Teresa and Mary Poppins combined.
Many daters associate divorced people with excess baggage.
While there can be some red flags (like if his relationship ended because he was unfaithful), people who've been through a divorce tend to have a deeper, more realistic perspective on marriage than those haven't.
It's not uncommon for children to love their father's girlfriend but as soon as Dad and girlfriend say, "I do", their feelings change drastically, often times confusing even them.
Soon, couples come into my office saying, "We never knew it would be this hard." Yeah, it's hard. 62-74% of remarriages with children end up in divorce. This number can be reduced by getting rid of unrealistic expectations and being prepared for the difficulties that will naturally present themselves.
These men "tend to be more patient, less self-centered and more inspired to please a woman." Dating expert Scott Carroll, MD, who's a formerly divorced, now married man, agrees. If he imagined post-wedding life to be perfect before he was divorced, he knows better now.
With any luck, "his ex taught him about the female body, what it takes to get a woman interested and how to give her an orgasm," he says. "Divorced men are no longer living in fantasy land,"Dr.
Some love to file court hearings at the drop of a hat and there is the potential for you, if you are living or ultimately married to him, to be pulled into these post-marital dramas. Many of you may have found out the hard way that your new love had lousy boundaries with his ex.
If he has a friendly relationship with his ex, how friendly is it? The ex dropped by, came into the home and maybe even had a key!
This is not a topic that you want to be the thing that binds you.