We separated for one week and after discussions and an agreement that he would not contact this woman we decided to get back together.One month later, I checked his phone and found he had saved the woman’s number under another name and had been phoning her constantly, and texting her at 2am when I went to bed and also throughout the day – even when he went to the shops to get nappies.There are no right or wrong answers when it comes to smartphone etiquette but what gets our attention is what thrives.
Perhaps you love him so much that you want to believe him or you don’t think ‘he’s that type of guy’.
Alternatively, he’s such a good debater that he’s persuaded you that you’re being paranoid (and therefore beginning to doubt your own instincts) or he claims your constant questioning is doing his head in (and you’re frightened of ruining the relationship).
I found out my fiancé had been receiving more than friendly texts from a woman that he previously worked with.
We had a horrific argument which ended in me leaving with our 9 month old baby – as my fiancé would not show me his mobile phone bill to prove he had not been participating in these texts.
If the phone rang, in the past, it was most probably a close friend or someone calling to arrange a social event (like a match in a golf tournament).
Any body in the house might answer and everybody had a rough idea of each other’s friends and engagements.
Most men hardly talk to their friends and text conversations / joke sharing on twitter etc happen only sporadically.
So if he’s constantly texting someone that’s a bad sign, as is deleting text messages and suddenly putting a password on his phone. Ask questions (‘What impact do you think this is having on our relationship?
Or ‘Why don’t you talk to me as much as you do her?