Everyone who does this will have their own reasons, but let’s explore what it might look like from the receiving end.
_________________________________________ Oh, it’s totally cool if do that thing but it’s a big no-no if you do it? _________________________________________ Someone who loves and cares for you will be consistent in the way they act towards you.
Consistency is a big part of a healthy relationship, because without it you never know what you are going to get from someone, and how are you supposed to build a solid foundation with a person like that?
You think about what's on your calendar in the next week and how you can rearrange your schedule to fit him in, even before your first date.
You call your BFF with great enthusiasm about the new guy you just met.
Any act of kindness for the sake of a reward, is not really an act of kindness.
In a happy, healthy relationship, both partners should give without obligation and receive without expectation.
_________________________________________ When you finally decide to do something, whether it involves them or not, they will always have something negative to say about it. Because this is how they get to control you by playing with your emotions, increasing your insecurity and therefore decreasing the likelihood that you branch out away from them.
They are being overly possessive and toying with your emotions, this will not get better, break the chains now.
After enough last minute cancellations, it becomes evident that this person is trying to keep their options open – which is not something you do in a committed relationship.