Likewise, niche dating websites, such as those for book lovers and science fiction nerds, are appealing though not as well-populated.
and then signed up for a dating website, entering "introvert" as a search term.
"[Introverts are] one-on-one in the email stage and on a date.
As annoying that is, you’re not being exposed in a negative way.” Cain said that having a focus on the positive aspects of online dating can help overcome hurdles.
"I would embrace it and see the beauty of it that you can sit at home curled up on your sofa and look for someone who feels like a real connection for you.” “It’s easier to ask somebody out online than in person," Cain said.
Mention the things you love to do, including introverted things when you're at home all day long, she said.
If you belong to a book group or have read everything by Isaac Asimov, say that.
"It’s a way of fulfilling sentimental human need for connection and romance without having to put yourself through a very unpleasant process of going to singles bars and things like that," Cain told , Cain writes about the "self-negating choices" introverts make when they feel the pressure to identify themselves as outgoing.
Hartman said that this is a choice she sees introverts make in their online dating profiles.
The first is that it can be done from the comfort of one's home, alone, and doesn't involve the traditional pressures of meeting people IRL, such as going to a crowded bar. “Conversations with new people are taxing for the introvert," Hartman told .
"Those initial conversations you can do over email online.” That intimacy continues to be an advantage during the dating stage.
One of the shades of introversion, Cain says, is that introverts don't share one particular way of conversing, and others might want to talk more.
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Five results came up, one of which ended up becoming his wife.