Google maps forever changed how we get where we want to go. Facebook forever changed how we communicate with loved ones.
He wanted to be with her but couldn’t afford to take the trips that she wanted to take and she was afraid to set a bad precedent by paying for him to go with her. She wasn’t willing to adjust her lifestyle to let a great guy in.
Many of my clients are not top 1% earners but they create similar boundaries by being unwilling to date someone outside of their immediate geographic area, without their same level of education, or who doesn’t have kids.
When you train your brain to be biased towards seeing a particular outcome that will become your reality.
Therefore, the first step is to begin retraining the brain to see something different.
I often hear clients say, “There are no good men in ______.” (Insert whichever city, the problem is the same.) The client believes that since they haven’t been able to find good men or they aren’t approached by as many men as they were in their 20s or 30s that it means that the well of good men in their town has totally dried up.
It’s not a universal problem, it is due to their location, their status, their career, their divorce/kids/etc. If they believe that there are no good men around them they definitely will not see them.
There is a reason why ancient yogic principles to lead you towards enlightenment involve mantras.
Mantras are words that are repeated with the purpose of aligning your thoughts with nature.
The list goes on but the issue remains the same – women over 40 are staying single because they have lived their life a certain way for so long that they cannot adapt to another person being in it. Images of princesses being swept off their feet by rich, kind prince charmings has been clockwork oranged into our pupils for decades.