There was the conservative preacher’s son I caught in a lie; the sensitive budding filmmaker who was kind and sweet, but ultimately not long-term relationship material; the social activist f---boy — the list goes on. I completely relate to the gray area Adam mentioned.
I not-very-creatively asked a lot of the potential matches if they’d done speed dating before, where they worked, etc. I didn’t feel sparks with anyone and some of the prospects’ jobs were more interesting than they were — I really wanted to learn more about this funeral director’s work, but, alas, our time was up — but it felt nice and less superficial to chat with people I’d ordinarily left-swipe.
I wrote down mini descriptions next to their names on my Date-Mate Scorecard to help me remember them: John*, works in sales, striped tie. After about two hours, I’d had mini dates with about a dozen men.
The night of Adam: Without being sure what to expect, I was definitely nervous prior to the event.
The prospect of packing a “date” into six-minute segments felt stressful enough even if it went well, let alone if it was going poorly.
I was glad Adam and I were in it together, though, because I started feeling a little anxious about the night.
The main event Sadé: Speed dating took place upstairs, so there were regular folks downstairs drinking and eating when I walked in.
In any case, my results from Bumble, Tinder and Coffee Meets Bagel have been mixed, at best.
Instead of actual results with other human beings, I’ve spent more time instead considering how my photos look, what my bio says (and doesn’t say) and should I display my top Spotify artists? The process can be draining, especially with your phone at your fingertips.
Everyone was polite and kind, thankfully, and many of my mini-dates agreed that it helped to all be there for the same reason.
That helped remove any potentially confusing pretense, as both parties were aware of the other’s “evaluation process,” so to speak, and the potential desire for a date.
I sat down and waited for all the men to make their way from table to table.