JK, JK, but really — it's hard to know how long to wait. If you jump right into something new, are you just rebounding?
"That way, it’s not a rebound or reactionary date scenario." If you dive directly back into the dating pool, you might find yourself in the deep end, so to speak."Too often people want to jump into a relationship," she says.
"A first love break up is a lot different than a two-year romance that ended because it was actually a rebound romance to start." Whatever the case may be, suss it out and see where you stand.
"You have to really gauge a few things when deciding what time is right for you to start dating," she adds. "Rebound relationships create a lot of heartache when you realize the person you’ve invested in isn’t right — and you didn’t see it from the get-go because you were so invested in replacing what was lost in the breakup that led to the rebound," Masini says.
In classic life fashion, all of the experts gave a different number.
Really, all of these questions are super legit and hard to really answer without getting expert opinion, which is why I asked 13 experts: When should you hit the dating game again after a breakup?
"Depending upon how intense the love affair actually was, this period can last a few months to a year or longer." It takes time to really feel everything and process it all.
"Once you feel that you've learned the lessons in why that relationship was brought to you in the first place, and why it ended, you're ready to move on," she says.
"Yet since everything is an inside job, it’s wise to continuing learning from the last relationship, grieving the loss and pain that came up as a result of what happened.
After a big breakup is a good time to journal, read good self-help books, and perhaps get counseling as a way to grow.
"The only way to tell is to be honest with yourself regarding your feelings over your ex." How over them are you, really?