If it is, comfort them by letting them know that your standards don't mean you're constantly waiting for them to mess up!
And if that's not the reason behind your relationship virginity, stand up for yourself and let them know what's really going on.
Whatever your reason, state it with confidence and make it clear that you aren't ashamed and shouldn't be shamed.
Don't make it a game of who's done what with who, and never feel a need to dish out your number unless you’re comfortable—you do you, girl. You can give up the sexual reigns until you feel confident enough to take charge.
"When I got involved with my first college hookup, I immediately knew that he had more experience," says Ana*, a junior at Vassar College.
Throw in the nerves associated with being inexperienced, and stomach butterflies are basically a given.
"My first boyfriend was much more experienced than me, and it caused a bunch of mixed feelings," says Hannah*, a sophomore at the University of Alabama.
Unless an unequal power dynamic is what you've consented to, a dominating partner personality could be a warning sign of disrespect.
Feeling awkward at the start of a new relationship is completely normal, no matter the circumstances.
Again, it's important to let your partner know if a conversation about their past is making you feel uncomfortable. As it turns out, almost everyone has an awkward sex story to share, whether they were a newbie at the time or not.
Just explain to them why, and ask if they would mind cutting back on similar conversations in the future. Sex in itself is an awkward process, and nothing like the movies (trust us). Being butterfly-filled with new-relationship nerves is one thing.
Holding tension in can lead to misunderstandings later on, so airing out concerns immediately may improve the prospects of your relationship.
It's okay to not want to hear about every single detail of your partner's previous sex or love life—when you're really digging someone, you probably don't want to imagine their hand holding someone else's!
Think of it this way: bragging leads to bitterness, and comparison can cause feelings of inadequacy—two emotions no relationship needs.