Borcea concedes that Face Date, by design, might not lead to the kind of dating serendipity that happens when someone finds themselves attracted to a person who is not their typical type.
Online dating has become a way of life for folks looking for love in the freewheeling, tap-and-swipe culture that dominates the 21st century.
You'll meet a great guy but say you know, I'm not focused on that and you'll let a lot of good ones get away." Senior Digital Love and Relationships editor Charli Penn does some deep digging; inquiring as to why so many women struggle with being bossy in the boardroom and the bedroom as well as answering the lifelong question of "am I asking for too much?
"What we've uncovered is women have taken the fast track," the Duo explains.
"They've gone from high school to college to graduate school or even onto medical school or law school and they have just taken the fast track through life and they look around all of a sudden at 35 or 40 and they don't have a husband or any children because they've allowed their career to take over their lives." A large part of that fast track mentality has come from our cultural upbringing, they say, which places a focus on prioritizing school, employment and success with the pursuit of passion and romance coming as a secondary focus.
According to the Pew Research Center, online dating sites or mobile dating app usage by 18-to 24-year-olds has increased nearly threefold since 2013, while usage by 55-to 64-year-olds has doubled.
As scores of singles wade through a crowded market, teeming with Tinders, Hornets, Bumbles, Hinges, Queeps and Mocos (yes, those are all actual dating apps), graduate computer science students in Ying Wu College of Computing at NJIT have invented a matchmaker that’s poised to stand out from the crowd. students Hillol Debnath, Nafize Paiker, Jianchen Shan and master’s student Pradyumna Neog under the direction of Cristian Borcea, professor and chair of the computer science department.
Unlike popular dating apps like Tinder or Bumble, there’s no swiping.
You teach the app what kind of face you like, and it goes from there. Borcea, the chair of the computer science department at NJIT, supervised the graduate students who developed the app.
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