It could be true that he/she is excited about the prospect of getting to know someone from a different place, but the point of most dating sites is to foster real-life connections. And if that's not really a possibility, what's the point of even starting something with someone?
You know how on some people's profiles, it'll say they're interested in friendship and that's about it?
You think that would fly back in the day when most people lived in small communities where everyone knew each other's business? Ghosts would have been taken by a village mob, calling for a witch trial. You may have encountered them out in the wild: You seem to hit it off, you're talking pretty consistently, and the next logical step would be to plan a date.
But once you've established that you're interested (maybe after a few days of talking, or so), it's time to finally do something about it. I had this happen with me a while back with a guy I was talking to on Tnder.
Someone who is content to talk to you on the site and makes no moves to ask you out or pick up on your signals to do so isn't looking to go out with you for whatever reason. It's usually a good sign when you finally move off of the site and you start texting each other. He was fine to text me, and even Snapchat me cute pictures of his dog, but every time I tried to hang out he'd make excuses.
This is not always the case, but I've learned to be very cautious with someone who gets very serious very soon.
If a person is already telling you their deepest, darkest secrets and you've only been chatting for a week, you guys either have some serious chemistry, or they're looking for a stranger to confide in.
So here are the best ways to tell the person you're talking with has no intention of taking it to the next level.
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