Bruk also expresses her surprise at “disintegration of male hygiene and work ethics”, citing the poor gender ratios as the reason.From the same book, rape is something that “happens”, and is accepted as a fact of life, not a social problem, she recounts. The roots are in the hunter-prey dating model, prescribing to males to push to the limit.
I would add, especially in capitals such as Moscow or Piter (the affectionate nickname of Saint Petersburg). I would say, Slavic girls believe that for a female beauty is everything.
Just like in western capitals, people tend to dress up more. Petersburg’s ladies] you pluck your own eyebrows and only get a facial once a month, [they] will look at you as though you have just clawed your way out of a swamp,” confesses Bruk. And the main reason why it is important is to attract and keep a boyfriend or a husband.
“It is a truth universally acknowledged that a woman wants a man who’s a gentleman at dinner and an animal in bed. This the Russian man understands,” writes the New York feminist born in the USSR.
Maybe brutal love making and total disregard to his partner’s feelings (and satisfaction) is attractive to someone who is used to gentle care, but I would stick to my opinion that the majority of Russian men are not as skilled in the bedroom department as their western counterparts, who took time to learn a thing or two about female pleasure.
According to the hunter-prey dating model that is accepted as a statute in Russia, the lady has to resist advances for as long as she can (usually not for long, due to the overpowering siege by the male).
“Russian men are quintessential gentlemen on first dates,” writes Bruk. They open the door for you and pull out your chair.” And they pay for the dates. Even true-to-the-core feminists apparently can live with men paying for them, if this is a “custom”.“Russian men are patriarchal alpha males,” insists she, declaring openly that at first it is a huge turn-on.The social responsibility of males to provide for their females is not only materialistic in the former Soviet Union, states she, but more alike paternal duty, where a woman is looked after by someone responsible for her, because it’s his moral obligation and delight.“If he hits you, that means he loves you,” quotes Diana her mother’s saying, the old-fashioned Slavic belief, which is the reason why domestic violence in Russia is still widely underreported — as well as most other forms of physical assault, making it a “norm” rather than a crime.Calling her relationship with Russian men “convoluted”, the daring New-Yorker goes on describing the peculiarities of the local dating etiquette.The downside of the powerful male taking what he wants?